Editorial policy

Every guide on this site is written and edited by Valentyn Siedlovskyi. There is no rotating cast of freelancers and no anonymous byline — if something here is wrong, it is one person’s fault and you can write to support@writereulogy.com about it.

Before writing, we read what currently ranks for the subject — usually the top three to five pages — and note what they all cover and what they all miss. The guide is then written to match them on the basics and beat them on the gaps.

In practice the gaps are consistent, and they are the parts that matter most: what to do when you cannot remember anything, how to speak about a difficult relationship, what happens if your voice goes at the lectern. Very little of what ranks addresses any of it.

Where a page states a fact that can be checked — a speaking rate, a liturgical rule, a consumer right — it is checked against a primary source, and where sources disagree the page says so rather than picking one. The Catholic eulogy page is the clearest example: the rite and one archdiocese give different guidance, so the page explains both and tells you to ask your parish.

The eulogy writer is an AI tool and says so everywhere it appears. That is the product.

The guides are a different matter. They are written and edited by a person, and every sample eulogy on the site was composed for the site rather than generated and pasted in. A page about how to write something has to be worth reading on its own terms.

We do not publish anything we have not read end to end.

• They are invented. No sample describes a real person, and no bereaved family’s words have been taken and reused. Any resemblance to someone you knew is coincidence.
• They must be distinct. Every sample uses a different name, a different central image and a different structure. We keep a register of all of them precisely so the site never becomes one template reworded.
• They include something unflattering. A eulogy with no imperfection in it sounds like it is about a stranger, so the samples are written the way real ones work.
• Humour is never at the dead person’s expense, and never about the death itself.

Some pages deal with a parent burying a child, with sudden death, and with suicide. On those we hold to a few things.

• We do not describe methods of suicide, and we do not present a death as a solution to anything. Where a page discusses naming a suicide in a eulogy, it advises saying it once, plainly, and moving on.
• We do not tell a grieving person that their loss makes sense, has a lesson in it, or happened for a reason.
• We do not frame a short life as unfinished. It quietly implies the years someone had did not count.
• We are not a bereavement or mental-health service and we do not pretend to be. Where support is needed, pages point to the funeral director or celebrant, who will know what exists locally.

Nothing here is legal, medical, financial or religious advice. Where a page describes the rules of a particular funeral rite, the instruction of your own priest, minister or celebrant is the one that applies on the day.

Each guide carries the date it was last updated. When we change something material — a fact, a figure, a recommendation — we update that date rather than quietly editing the page.

If you find an error, or something that reads badly to someone actually in grief, please tell us at support@writereulogy.com. Corrections on WriteEulogy are made quickly and without argument.

We take no advertising, no sponsorship and no affiliate commission from funeral homes, florists, insurers or anybody else. The only money this site makes is the one-time $24 for unlocking a full eulogy, which means nothing on a guide page is written to sell you a third party’s product.

Guides recommend writing it yourself where that is the better answer. You will find that advice on several pages, including in the tool ’s own comparison of doing it by hand.